If you get what I mean.

The title of my post is the line my dearest baby girl used more than 10 times on a 20 min bus journey home.

This post is for all the girls in the world who have had boyfriends who didn't appreciate them for who they are, who made use of girls' feelings to verbally, physically and emotionally manipulate them and then climb all over their heads. Or guys who have had girlfriends like that.

This post is purely based on my own opinion, thoughts and SOME previous experiences. If you feel offended, please kindly click the little X on the top right corner of your screen or go away to the next blog or something, if not, make yourself at home.

Here it goes..


Guys who want 24/7 -- What the hell is wrong with them?! Do they not realise that girls need a social life.There are days when ANY RANDOM PERSON ON THE STREET WOULD WANT AN "ALONE" day to do their own stuff like going out to shop on their own, to go to a random toilet to pee, to look at people walk past on the street while sipping down Latte, Cappuccino, Kopi-O etc. Yes, It is considerate for the guy to not want his girlfriend to be alone. However sometimes i feel this is a symptom of being over-possessive.
--- If you get what I mean.


Partners who do not allow their girlfriends/boyfriends to hang out with their other friends -- UNLESS THEIR FRIENDS ARE BAD INFLUENCE/ constantly being assholes. If you're a guy/girl and you're jealous that your girlfriend/boyfriend has other girlfriends/boyfriends, THAT'S JUST LAME.

FOR THE GIRLS :

1. Your girlfriend needs her girlfriends to complain about your over-possessive nonsense.
2. She needs people who will understand the feeling of having cramps once a month.
3. She needs someone who is actually willing to give their honest opinions about shopping(some boyfriends can do that, i agree).
   
4. She needs girls who knows the feeling of actually WEARING A BRA.
5. Accept this -- She needs someone who understands her better and deeper than you.
   

These are 5 reasons in your pathetic face why girls, need their girls.

Guys/girls who don't keep their promises or use the lines "I will change"/"This won't happen again"/ "Sorry baby" TOO OFTEN. -- If you say something, mean it. (applies to both genders, i know of guys who have had girls like that and vice versa- my heart goes out to all of you.)
You break the promise, you fix it. Some times we are being nice just because we don't want to make a big deal out of it. So think again if you think your partner makes a big fuss out of everything. We tolerate broken promises, the never-fulfilled-dates, the late comings, the stand ups, the jealousy, the insecurity shit BECAUSE WE BLOODY LOVE YOU, not because we want some rewards or whatever.

And for goodness sake, RELATIONSHIP IS A COMPROMISE.
If you're not gonna give and take, what are you gonna do? Shit and eat your shit? or shit and kick your shit? Your partner is there for you to love, care, do crazy things, and most importantly, appreciate. He/she isn't there to help you clean your bullshit and wipe your stinky ass. I know everyone has their own moments of nonsense and sometimes we have to understand. This is the part about giving and NOT expecting anything in return.
If all you do is just TAKE and talk bollocks about yourself GIVING, YOU seriously need to do something about yourself. Because what you're doing is living in self denial -- that pretty much ruins you.

One last thing, its either keep it or break it.
You either keep a realtionship or break it. You dont spam your love one's in-box with messages of wanting to fix it when its already broken. Second chances do exist, that is only if you're worth it. The next time you go irritating someone for a second chance you should do a self check, maybe its not us not wanting to give you a second chance, but maybe because we have already gave you two thousand chances and you barely noticed. If you want something, fight for it. Anyone can do vacuum talk. Easier said than done.

To all the broken hearts out there, its up to how you wanna fix your heart. You don't need to go back to your ex or find a substitute. We all know that there's no such thing as a substitute for love, the special someone will always hold a special place in your heart. Over time when you meet someone new, that person will stand a bigger surface area and even "eat" into your ex's territory, but the spot where they used to stand will always remain there. Don't let your past get into your future.

to my dearest BAMY girl: I'll always be here for you. Don't be too hard on yourself. I know what it feels like to go through what you are going through now. Please stay strong, you deserve much better. We all love you sweetie :)

so...

KEKEKE. Single ladies & Single men, Put your hands up up up! :):):)